Trusting Your Sexual Partner As Sex Expert To Heal Sexual Dysfunctions
Julia Vaya-Mai- May 22, 2024
- 3 min read
I bet a lot of males’ sexual dysfunction would disappear if society would learn to trust that what women are saying is POTENTIALLY TRUE.
As a sex coach and a heterosexual woman, I reach out of my depth to convince men that size is not important and neither is erection (for female pleasure). This is not only my opinion - a majority of my female clients wish the penetration part would finish sooner and the foreplay part would extend. Yes, you read that right.
Erection issues rooted in porn
But males seem not to believe those who are receiving their penis. They rather believe those who make millions on wronging and criticizing their penises - the porn industry.
(As a businesswoman, I shouldn’t throw a spanner in the works by debunking certain porn beliefs. In the end a big part of my income comes from fixing what porn has broken.)
Even the smartest, most educated men - being fully convinced even when the horrible deceptive effect of porn on the human brain is backed by scientific proof - would still fall prey to manufactured porn fantasy of penis being the king of sexual jungles.
Dear men, please wake up!
I will leave the nerdy research article on the deteriorating effect of porn on the brain for next time. But if you can’t wait, you can enjoy reading 57 neuroscientific studies on the brain damaging effect of porn addiction (data of 2023, there might be more by now). You can find some links to start your discovery journey into it at the ened of this blog.
I will not even be debunking the sexual myths that the male body is actually not designed for 40 min hard banging or women orgasming from slightest thrusting of their clitoris. I am honestly tired of teaching that they are as real as your favorite movie hero jumping from the 69th floor and not breaking a bone when landing on the concrete. Somehow everybody agrees this is a fantasy but fails to believe that having a hard on for 40 min continuously is something that is against human physiology.
Dear men, just allow for a second your partner’s voice to guide you. You’ll find that sex is more pleasant, easy, and your partner is more satisfied when the whole universe is not revolving around your penis. Lesbians are living proof of it.
Dear men, listen to your partner in bed as you listen to your investors who give thousands for your product if you improve its quality. Would you argue to prove your truth, or would you listen to someone’s opinion if it could help you to upscale your business?
See your partner as sex expert.
Why is it different when it comes to your lover?
UNEXPECTEd solutions to heal sexuali dysfunctions - find a sex expert in your bed
Dear men, just imagine that we vagina holders can also be intelligent and sex experts of their own body and pleasure. That your inability to satisfy them in the way you want doesn’t mean they are broken.
We are not amoebas in an evolutionary rush to survive and assert our genes. We are beings with the most fascinating and complex mechanism between our ears - our brain and sensational pleasure machine - the body.
Only perfect communication between those parts and between two (or more) humans can find the way to ecstatic heights.
I can almost sign with blood that most of our age sexual dysfunction would disappear when we start to hear and listen to our bodies - and each other. When we realise that we already have our partner as a sex expert.
Disclaimer: this piece of content is about heteronormative relationships.
References:
Aishwariya Jha and Debanjan Banerjee: a research article in Sage journal October 7, 2022, Volume 4, Issue 4. "Neurobiology of Sex and Pornography Addictions: A Primer"
Christina Camilleri, Justin T. Perry, Stephen Sammut: original research article in Frontiers of Psychology January 12, 2021, Volume 11. "Compulsive Internet Pornography Use and Mental Health: A Cross-Sectional Study in a Sample of University Students in the United States"
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